towing shifting vs, street/strip, difference?

The shift "feel" gets harder as each "stage" is used. Shift timing may be changed to a higher one too.

sooo, which would i rather have?? i want it to shift like imediately when i bump the shifter forward!

You are gonna have to find out for yourself. Read the directions in the kit. See if any of the stages are not reversible. Depending on the brand, most are reversible up to, but not including the 3rd stage. Might try the 2nd stage to start with. You can usually the lower stages and then go higher if needed.